Inside My ExoMind Sessions: A Patient’s Perspective

When it comes to our own cycles of thought patterns and behaviors, worrying about every conceivable thing that can or might happen is my brain's greatest strength and weakness. Because anxiety? While it often feels like a curse, it can also be one of the brain's most powerful protection mechanisms when harnessed well. Hear me out: going into a situation, planning for every conceivable scenario, potential issues that might arise and determining exactly how you need to prepare is an incredible quality. In business, in preparation, and because I have an ability to go through those things, I’ve always been well-equipped to help my network cope with stress. I LIVE in stress. I am stress. I am a walking C-PTSD case study, an amalgamation of childhood and relationship trauma all balled into this tightly wound personality jenga tower that, at any moment can come crashing down. When you’re so busy leaning on all the possible scenarios that can happen? You’re in the future and sometimes? You’re the worst-case-scenario. And that, my friends, is a tiring place to exist all the time.

Our mental health and emotional state impacts everyone around us, no matter how well we think we keep it reigned in. In those moments of quiet overwhelm where we leave the room to dissociate or doom scroll, in the moments where that one last thing on the pile of stress that was our day sends our nervous systems crashing down, in the moments where we’re so on edge we take it out on our partners, on drivers on the road, in the social media comment stream, or worse- our own children.

Not many people talk about the very real opportunity cost of living in constant vigilance. And while we may not have been the people that put us there, while this magical coping mechanism that popped in as a result has kept us safe, I think we all can be certain when we say that safety and security are things we want to feel more often.

When Alyssa talked to me about Exomind, she told me about its clinical studies and how the FDA saw it as a viable treatment for depression and anxiety in those who tried and failed with medication and other treatments.

For me, you’ll never get me on an anxiety medication, and Exomind had me intrigued but the price tag?? Are you kidding. No way. No. Way. For what? For some machine to send some pulses into my brain? And that’s just going to fix the veritable hamster wheel mind mess that my brain is perpetually manufacturing? I know what it looks like in there and it’s gonna take more than that.

I couldn’t rationalize it. But then I started to notice the way I’d get done making dinner and sneak away to forget about my problems. My workaholism tendencies, my burnout, my overwhelm, my lack of presence as a mom, those quiet meltdowns in the car, the bubbled up frustration that resulted in yelling - not all the time, just when it was too much, and how I had gradually withdrawn from the vibrant me with a large network of friends, that socialized, that helped her community - and I realized the very real cost of my stress and anxiety.

And my progress in my own mental health has made strides. The person I was 5 years ago could never. She could never handle what I handle, be as graceful or present, but she also wasn’t so pulled in. I realized I’ve been operating in survival mode for too, too long. And I realized that the cost of not doing Exomind treatments might be greater for me than doing them.

I’ve had 4 Exomind treatments at this point- and while I had originally intended to write a blog on the science of neuroplasticity, how the machine works and why you need it- maybe I’ll just tell you about what I’ve experienced over the course of the last 4 weeks by listing out the side effects of this treatment:

1. I Can Handle More Without Breaking. 

Imagine if your emotional bandwidth is a container… that Exomind doubles the volume and leaves more space to grow. I’ve found myself in situations of extraordinary stress over the last month and have still been able to look at the situation and come up with solutions or just (and maybe this is not so major for you as it is for me) not devolve into existential dread over my life. Analogies aside, Exomind has gifted me greater perspective and better ability to navigate the minefields (or, more aptly, mindfields ) on a daily basis.
2. Less emotional eating. 

Emotional support chocolate and emotional support sweet treats in general have always been a love language. Now? Meh, I’m fine no matter what. I’ve stopped digging into my kids' snack drawer, I’m not reaching for snacks when I’m spiraling (it is because my container of emotional bandwidth is larger?) and as a result of that paired up with Heal Thyself’s dietary recommendations - I’m down 7 lbs in 4 weeks.

3. More joy. 

Since I started Exomind treatments I’ve started reaching out to and making plans with friends and that social butterfly that was always at the center of giving to others and pouring into the people around me and organizing social events is coming back… there’s tangible joy in my life that coexists with struggle now. Instead of spending most of the day worried about my to-do list, potential issues that might arise and the crushing overwhelm that comes with being a single mom - I can have my moments of joy while I set my struggles and baggage at the door and pick them up when I'm ready to deal with them while still enjoying my life. 

4. Negative emotions as passengers, not bodysnatchers. 

Exomind’s technology supports my brain’s ability to stay regulated even when big emotions surface, allowing me to experience them without letting them take the wheel. I understand now that I can have difficult emotions and hard days and fully feel and embody them without shoving them away and know - this is temporary, these are clouds in the sky. I live in Florida and storms pass quickly. I’m resilient. I have so much to be grateful for. And that? Is invaluable to my productivity.

5. My relationships are better. 

My relationships are improving. With my friends, my family, myself, and my kids. I’m more present, I’m more regulated. I have more space and don’t feel so pulled in, so I’m making more plans than I’ve made in YEARS with my friends. I have capacity and energy and everyone is benefiting.


I think that mental health and emotional regulation are a progression. I think that it’s something that you have to work at every day, particularly when you have a traumatic childhood and past. But I also think - with the right professionals behind you, you can make all the changes to make the most of this tool and really thrive in your own body.


Exomind is undoubtedly a large investment. But I like to think of it this way - when it comes to opportunity cost, my emotional dysregulation as a result of the chronic work stress, overwhelm and drowny nature of being a single mom was costing me WAY, WAY more. And I’m sure someone, somewhere can do a study on how much more productive with work Exomind has made me, resulting in more abundant financial gains inside my business as well.

We get to choose who we show up as. We get to choose how we invest in ourselves.


If you're on the fence about whether it's worth it to prioritize your mental health, let me just say: your future self will thank you for every bit of effort, every dollar, and every moment you spend stepping into your next level of peace. And this investment? Might just be one of my best yet.